It’s actually very easy to increase your sexual intelligence quotient. You start by correcting the mistakes that you have been making. What are those mistakes? And how do you remedy them? Let’s take a look.

The first mistake coincides with the male mentality that sex is a sprint to cross the orgasmic finish line. The faster you are able to get a partner to climax is not the most enjoyable way to have sex. The foreplay, on the other hand, can be an immeasurably exciting and fun experience. A partner can become so “hot” during extended foreplay that the resulting climax proves even better than when you race to the finish. You should think of sex as a marathon… not a sprint.

Try this: tease your partner by gently kissing, flicking your tongue on her skin. Kiss her all over for a long time… until she simply cannot take it anymore… until she screams in desire for you to come inside of her.

The second mistake has to do with always having sex at the same time, in the same place. How boring! No wonder your sex life is dull. It’s time to inject a sense of adventure into your life. Be creative and be spontaneous. Think of all the other places you can engage your partner in lovemaking. There’s the garage, your car, outside. Find your own nook. I suggest being discreet, however.

More of a Bore

The third mistake people make is unimaginative foreplay. More of a bore! I spoke recently with an online friend who touted the benefits of physical exercise as foreplay. Imagine that! A couple works out together, they work up a sweat. They shower together, they make love together. Wow! My friend tells me that a man’s sweat has something called androstadienone in it. This is some sort of testosterone derivative that is said to increase a woman’s sexual desire when she smells it. Who knew!

The fourth mistake lovers make is to begin the joy of lovemaking the same way all the time. Again, be creative and try something new. For instance, have you ever thought to tie your partner’s hands up and make them figure out how to take off your clothes? Interesting, huh? This activity will take your relationship to a higher level. You are friends, first and foremost. So live, love and laugh … a lot!

The fifth mistake that mostly men make is to delay sex until after his TV shows are over. Television will make you lazy and then you will fall into the sex traps that we are trying to avoid here. Instead of watching the boob tube, read a book to your lady. She loves to hear your voice, and the lower your voice, the better off you are. You see, if you read lying in bed with your head up, you will force your sound waves down an octave. This happens because you use your diaphragm instead of your lungs to push out your breath. Low voices coincide with testosterone and your lady can’t get enough of your manliness.

The sixth and final mistake we will mention here is the bad habit of holding hands excessively. Don’t get me wrong … holding hands is great. It’s is sensual to feel the soft skin of your partner’s hand. It shows a connection two people have. But too much of it just defeats the purpose. Instead, touch other parts of her body. The nape of a woman’s neck is a very sexy, sensitive area. Caress her there, softly kiss her there. She will get excited … trust me. I know.

Whether you are guilty of none, one or all of the above mistakes, everyone can benefit from variety in their sex life. Learning how to correct the mistakes that you or others have made will surely up your sexual IQ. Don’t you want to be sexy and smart?