Dating Tips

When I look at allot of the online dating services I notice one common trend. People take it very seriously into finding there true love. I find it absolutely amazing the amount of people who are looking for there absolute perfect match.

There seems to be so many profiles out there who tell people exactly what it is they want from a partner. Its as if there an owner of a company and there trying to fill a certain job position. They then take and list there requirements and what they expect from a person. If they don’t meet those requirements then they think there unsuitable. I think that’s crazy.

Dating is about getting to know people and then seeing if you enjoy spending time with them. You will often meet people who you thought you would never date and end up having a strong relationship with them. I’m not saying that it isn’t good to have certain expectations. It is good to have an idea of what you want in a partner. I’m just saying you need to have an open mind.

So what should you put in your profile?

Intsead of a whole big list of stuff like this is what I want and this is what I expect, you should have a touch of personality. Sure you will have certain expectations. You need to personalize them, so they just don’t sound like your looking for a perfect person. If you like to joke around then add some little funnies throughout your profile. You need to show off your personality. Show people how you see the world and that you don’t take everything so seriously.

When you go to a nightclub you don’t just go to meet someone, you go to have some fun too. You need to look at online dating in the same way. Have some fun with it and don’t take it to seriously. You will make things much easier on yourself.

Tyler Casselman is an online dating expert. He owns the popular site Online Dating Home.

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In her bestselling book “Mr. Right, Right Now, How a Smart Woman Can Land Her Dream Man in 6 Weeks,” author E. Jean Carroll lists 119 great places to meet eligible men. Her list includes #9 Mountain Bike Trails, #28 NASCAR races, #41 yacht clubs, #64 guitar class, #85 Home Depot, #95 cooking class and #115 weddings. Her Number One #1 way to meet men is online dating sites. She says that online dating is now cool, something that smart couples brag about to their friends, and is the most effective way to meet your future husband.

In the book Jean provides a set of sensible rules for online dating.

Her Rule #1 of online dating is, “Put Up a Peachy Picture.” She advises ‘hiring a professional makeup artist and spend an afternoon having a friend take pictures of you.’ This is excellent advice, if you and your skilled photographer friend have the time. If not, the next best thing is to have your non-professional photo subtly enhanced so that it looks professional.

Jean’s Rule #2 is “Create a Bewitching Screen Name.” Unless you are looking for “sex sixty or seventy times a day with dozens of strapping young rakes,” she advises against screen names like Miss Behavin, Boobalicious or The Naughty Professor. For the ordinary woman, she recommends references to poetic or literary characters like “Lady-Chat-Early” and “HalleBerryTwin.”

Rule #3 of online dating is to spin a story for your profile. Instead of merely describing yourself, write a few sentences about something that happened to you and how you responded to it. A real-life example from the book: “I love behind the scenes of movies. I walked onto the set of Julia Roberts’ new movie and the director walked over and thanked me ‘for smiling at (him) so dimly.’ Made my week!” A guy reading this figures out that you are eye-catching, spontaneous, bright and witty, without your having said any of those words.

Let’s return to Rule #1, the one that Jean says is the most important, “Put Up a Peachy Picture.” According to the book, “It takes less than 2 seconds for a man to suck in every detail of your hair, your clothes, your shape, your style, your status, your walk. Men absolutely lose their brains over novelty and beauty. ‘The [first] impression is anchored,’ says Dr. Frank Bernieri, the Harvard Ph.D. world’s leading authority on the subject. When a guy sees an attractive woman, he wants to find her interesting. He wants to discover she’s intelligent.” Guys can’t help themselves when they see an attractive woman, or an attractive photo of a woman. In fact, later when they meet her in person they don’t even care if she doesn’t look exactly like her photo. They were hooked by the first impression, and they stay hooked.

While many companies can do photo retouching, the cost is often $20, $30 or more for each photo. I would like to recommend our reasonably-priced alternative, http://399Retouch.com. Our company does very good work for less than $4 per digital photo. You can see examples on our website.

399Retouch.com doesn’t deal with physical pictures, so we will not try to sell you reprints and enlargements like other companies do. We don’t play games with copyright, you always own the copyright to your own image and you can make as many prints as you want, anywhere you want. We do know Photoshop tricks like adding and removing people from photos and changing the color of clothing, but our bread and butter is changing amateur snapshots of people into beautiful professional-looking portraits. We diminish or remove acne, moles, crow’s feet and other skin blemishes. If the color balance of your picture makes you look a little ill, we fix it. We can even make you look a little slimmer. Our technicians also use some hush-hush tricks that cause a noticeable improvement in your appearance, without the photo’s looking like it has been retouched.

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About the author:

M. Lynn Abernathy is the owner and manager of http://399Retouch.com. Permission is granted to publish this article on websites, provided the author’s name and links are retained.

If you are ready to start winning in the dating world, follow this simple strategy for success:

Lesson 1: First Impressions

They are immediate, long lasting, and usually permanent. Regardless of how great you are, and no matter how sweet you can be once someone gets to know you, the reality is, your dating success will be based almost entirely upon the other person’s initial sense of who and what you are.

Lesson 2: If you want the part, look the part

Statistics show that how we appear speaks more about us, and is more important, than what we say verbally.

Lesson 3: Act the part

It is a fact that in our personal affairs, as in all our business dealings, we sell ourselves first. Poor attitude, image, and behavior will adversely affect your dating success, just as it will negatively affect your success in business.

Lesson 4: Be the part.

The initial impression you make on a prospective date predicts whether she (or he) will take the time to get to know you. Dating, as well as business, is all about sales. You must think of yourself as a product and the person you want to date as the buyer.

Lesson 5: Dating is about sales and sales is a numbers game

If you want to multiply your success immediately in dating (or just about anything else), learn, understand, and embrace the concept behind “the numbers game.” Accept and follow these tenets:

* You are a product

* You are the product’s salesperson, its packager, and its advertiser.

* The person you’re trying to attract is your customer. They make their buying decisions based upon presentation, packaging, and advertising.

* The world’s best salespeople don’t have a 100 percent sales rate, a 75 percent rate, a 50 percent or even a 25 percent rate. The world’s best salespeople are lucky to maintain a 10 percent sales rate and count themselves lucky if one out of every ten “pitches” results in a sale.

Lesson 6: Confidence = success

The number one quality both men and women seek in a date or a mate is confidence. Confidence is also the key attribute that all professional salesmen must possess in order to be successful. People do not buy products or services from someone who has no confidence in themselves or the products they represent.

Lesson 7: Establish a goal

A confident person is one with a plan and a goal. What’s yours?

Lesson 8: Know your target market and give them what they want

Understand to whom you are trying to sell yourself and what they are interested in buying.

Lesson 9: Analyze the competition and do things better than they do

Just as you would study a competitor in business or a rival sports team, study your dating competition if you want to win!

Lesson 10: Take action and follow through

Deal with your fear of rejection. Stop investing your energy and self-worth in outcomes. Instead ofthinking of ‘misses’ as ‘failures,’ think of them as ‘practice shots’. Dating is a process. Stop placing so much importance on what the person you are interested in thinks of you. After all, you don’t know if you would even like them once you get to know them, do you?

Set small goals and accomplish them, one by one. Get passionate about your goals and your life. Enthusiasm is contagious, if you are excited about your life, people will be excited about being with you.

Dress for success. Always put your best foot forward And don’t forget to perfect your sales pitch. If you keep doing the same thing, you will keep getting the same result.

Bonus Lesson: Live as if there may be no tomorrow

Realize there are no guarantees, no dress rehearsals, and (usually) no second chances. Make each day “your day,” one in which you did all that you could do.

About The Author

Nicknamed “the new millennium’s Dear Abby,” by the media, April Masini is author of the best-selling book Date Out Of Your League, and is the publisher of AskApril.com the edgy, provocative dating and relationship online magazine. April writes what Dear Abby will never print, and what your shrink doesn’t have the guts to tell you! Visit www.askapril.com for more dating success information.

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As bad and sad as the experience of a dating or romance scam is, there is a need to heal from it.
It is an experience that many victims who have been through it have described as being worse than a nightmare.

Although they never bargained for the romance scam when they began to look for a date online, yet when the romance scam happened, they didn’t imagine that the experience would be so horrible as it later turned out to be.

Some victims told me that they couldn’t sleep at night for days afterwards.

Rather, they would cry their eyes out on their bed.They let me know that they would wish that the whole incidence was a dream and that it would just go away.

But it never did.

The experience stayed with them for a while before they got over it. And many others who use the internet all over the Western world are still going through the same experience till date.

From my interactions, counseling sessions and experiences with many victims of the scams, here are some tips to use in getting over this scam:

1. Do not keep what happened to you secret: Find someone to talk to about what happened. Don’t keep your experience a secret just because you want to avoid being embarrassed or being ashamed.

It always helps to find someone whom you trust totally to confide in about what happened to you.
It is best to look for someone who will not condemn you for what happened. At the time it hits you that you have been scammed, you do not need a judge or a critic.

You need someone on whose shoulders you can cry on, someone who o can just listen to you, without making you feel guilty.

Look for such a person and talk to the person about what happened to you. It helps a lot to do this.
2.Avoid blaming yourself: blaming yourself won’t help matters at all. By engaging in the blame game, you would only be complicating matters for yourself.

It won’t help you to heal fast, but will only hurt you the more emotionally.You need to break free from blaming yourself, or from being held down by the victim mentality.

You can’t get over the experience if you keep blaming yourself. No matter what you did wrong, you need to avoid blaming yourself .

The time after the romance scam is not the time to look for whom to blame. What you need to do is to get over it first.

3.Look for professional help where necessary: if you can’t handle the experience alone, or with the person you shared with, then you need to see a professional counselor or minister to help you out.

In some cases of the romance scams, especially those in which the love affair had been going on for long before the scam took place, it might be better to seek professional help in addition to other sources of help.

This is due to the fact that such victims are often unwilling to let go of what to them seemed real and are too taken in by the illusion that they were in love with.

Their reluctance to let go of the experience could actually be a problem to them, and as such, they will need professional help to get over the experience.

Also, people who have experienced cases of depression due to the romance scam are advised to seek medical help.

About the Author:

Alan Prince writes from his interactions with hundreds of men and women who have been through the romance or dating scams. His research work and advice has been the basis of unraveling most of the methods of operation of how the romance scams operate. You can get a free book on the romance scams from him at http://elovedeceptions.com/book-gift

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What do you believe about relationships?

Your beliefs are important because they determine the relationship (or lack of relationship) you end up with.

For example, if you believe that all men cheat, you’ll attract cheaters. If you believe that men resist commitment, you’ll probably end up with a guy who’s in no hurry to sit for an engagement photo.

If you believe you don’t have what it takes to meet a guy who’ll love you for the rest of your life, guess what? You’re right.

Change your beliefs, and you’ll change the type of men –and relationships — you attract.

If you find yourself dating the same type of guy over and over, it is definitely going to mess with your belief system (and it’s probably a result of your belief system!). You probably don’t think that a guy who’ll make you happy really exists. I’ll bet you find yourself working too hard every time you start a relationship, or go on a date, or even to a party.

Stop.

I want you to sit down and ask yourself what you want out of your next relationship. Decide what you want in a man, instead of obsessing over how to get a man, how to please a man, and how to dress for a man.

After you determine what you want, jot it down. Then write an affirmation around it.

Here’s the one that worked for me:

“I am happily married to a loyal, loving, reliable, successful, fun man.”

(Because I formerly attracted guys who cheated, went hot and cold on me, didn’t call or show up when they said they would, and weren’t particularly fun.)

I’d really feel it, too. I brought all my senses into what it would be like to be married to a loyal, loving, reliable, successful, fun man.

What would it look like?

Feel like?

Smell like?

Taste like?

Sound like?

When I wasn’t writing my affirmation, I went about my life as usual. I went to work. I hung out on Friday and Saturday nights with my friends. All the while, I kept writing (and feeling) my affirmations every day.

Then, the man I married walked into my life. The beautiful thing is, we’re actually happily married. Too many couples aren’t.

Would you like to be happily married someday?

You can have what you want if you know what you want, and if you believe it’s possible.

Affirmations will make it possible.

Decide what you want. Think up an affirmation and write it 15-20 times every single day. Before you know it, you’ll be dating better men, perhaps the one who’ll bring you joy for the rest of your life.

About the Author

Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of “How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams.” Sign up for her free dating tips at http://www.marrysmart.com . Check out her blog at http://happygirlmusing.blogspot.com .

“Men’s Killer Dating Mistake.” and how to avoid it! By Mick Jones

Once you are good at meeting women online, or anywhere for that matter… The next step is to be able to qualify the lady quickly. By qualify I mean to decide whether to see her again and allow her into your life. This is a very important skill for many reasons.

Here is the Killer mistake a lot of men make!

They spend too much time with a woman they should have “disqualified” 20 minutes after they met her. Mainly because they’re glad to meet any woman who shows an interest in them.

What’s the best way to avoid the pain and hassle of a bad partner?

To be able to disqualify a future partner! Not easy I know.

See, the men that are good with women, don’t waste their time and energy on someone they instinctively know is going to be trouble. These guys have good qualifying skills, being able to move on quickly from un-responsive or unsuitable women. Then spending their time with only highly qualified dates. This is ‘effective time management’ for producing the best results!

So how do you qualify you ask?

Mmmmhhh, good question and a skill not practiced by many.

Let’s look at it and give an example.

What men good with women do is to have clearly defined criteria and as soon as they identify a trait that is outside of their criteria, they politely discontinue interest and move on.

You need to know what your desired outcome is,

Whether it is finding one lady for a permanent one on one committed relationship. Or you may want adventure and good times without too much commitment. If you don’t decide your desired outcome, you can’t define your ideal dating partner. Once you do know your outcome, however, the next step is to define the criteria of the “ideal dating partner.”

Once you have that criteria defined, you want to as Quickly as possible find out if a woman fits that criteria. If she doesn’t, then you need to spend your time identifying those who do. This is where most men make the ‘Killer mistake.’

They stick with a woman they should “disqualify,” hoping she’ll develop the traits they’re looking for. If she doesn’t fit your criteria, decide and move on quickly. Then spend your valuable time and energy finding one who does.

Heres a common example. If you’re looking to be married, and you’re dating a woman who says, “I just want to have some fun and meet people, and if it goes further, we’ll see what happens,” then you need to disqualify her. She’s looking for fun and adventure, not marriage, so she’ll be hard work to change to the traits you are looking for. And waste your valuable time…

Fair enough? So you’ll need to find and spend time with the type of women that suits your criteria. Write your criteria down and look at it BEFORE you send kisses, winks and emails at online dating sites.

If you just want to date and meet as many women as possible, which I did when I first went online to get experience, Your criteria can be small. However this Gets frustrating and disappointing as you are not spending quality time with quality women. Then a Year has gone by and you’ve had a lot of fun, but still not a really special, high quality woman in your life, that I’m sure you desire…

So the key to avoid the ‘killer mistake’ with online dating or any dating, is to define what YOU WANT. Then put as much time and energy as you can with women who fit that criteria, quickly moving on from women who don’t. As hard and harsh as that may be, your success with women will be a direct result of how you manage your time! This will lead you to finding the type of woman who you want and look forward to spending time with.

This leads to a feeling of well being, success and contentment.

Good luck, I hope you’ve got value from this article.

Regards Mick Jones Author http://www.howtomeetwomenontheinternet.com



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Be honest. It has happened to all of us. There was this girl… A girl you might have never even talked to… But still… You couldn’t help but think about her all day… And the more you thought about her, the less courage you had to go up to her and invite her for a get-together.

The above situation repeats itself from time to time. Back in high school with the girl who went one class below you, at university with that wonderful woman who always sat in the second row or later with the lady who works at the room next to yours.

And the damn feeling, this one-sided “love” keeps reappearing and making your life a misery. The more you idolize these girls, the further they go from your reality, and being with them one day in the future becomes nothing more than a mere fantasy.

Lesson #1: In a relationship but more importantly, when going out for the first time with somebody, it’s always the person with less emotional involvement who dictates and chooses. This means if you go out with a girl, and you let your happiness depend on how the date goes, you are ruining your chances before you had any. The more you stress yourself about a certain girl, the more emotionally involved you become and as a result, you are almost GUARANTEED to get rejected.

Lesson #2: Girls like to look up to their men for something. If you ask some girls who are in love with their partners, they will always adore him for something in his personality. It doesn’t matter why, but a woman has to look up to her man. If you idolize a girl and put her on a pedestal, she will sense it instantly. She will feel that SHE IS THE ONE IN CONTROL. As soon as this happens, you are NOT A CHALLENGE for her anymore. The result? You get rejected.

Lesson #3: When you have to work hard for your chocolate, it will always taste sweeter. If you walk into the supermarket and choose one from the huge collection of sweets, there is no challenge in it. But when you have to work hard to get that “one special” chocolate… Now that’s a CHALLENGE! It’s the same with women. If you are not that easy to get, if she senses that you might leave (and don’t come back) in any moment, she will be challenged and likely to become attracted to you.

Have you ever seen 8 guys drooling over the same woman, fighting for her attention? Which one of them do you think has got the girl? The 9 th, who was watching from a distance while showing no interest towards her. The girl thought: “Why doesn’t he come here like all the other guys? Doesn’t he like me? I must find out why…” In the end, it was the girl who approached the guy and wanted something from him. Now that’s the POWER OF CHALLENGE and CURIOSITY. Never underestimate it!

When you think you “love” a girl you have never even talked to, you keep going round and round in a vicious circle. You keep playing with the thought of being with this “one special girl” in various situations. This projection of pictures in your mind creates a lot of energy. This energy wants to explode and unless it can do so (by being with the girl you dream about) it will create a lot of stress and tension inside you. It’s an endless loop. If you try to ignore the feeling with force, it will reappear and become even stronger.

Realize that this is not “real love”; it’s just a form of LUST TO POSSESS. You don’t even know this girl; you are just driving yourself around in this circle. The solution? First, admit this feeling to yourself, then carry on with your life. Don’t ignore it; just notice that it’s inside and you can’t do anything about it. Try to watch yourself from “the outside”, from a neutral point of view. And the second step is to focus your energy on something else. Like going out and meeting other women. As soon as you kiss or get closer to another girl, this “one special lady” will be of less importance to you.

Lastly, there is a secret. Even the biggest badass players get this feeling from time to time. They just learn to deal with it, and thanks to their skills, it’s easier for them to get other women and focus on them instead. You can do yourself two big favors. First, learn to get over your fear and approach the woman you are longing for. That way even if you get rejected, it happens sooner and you haven’t wasted weeks or months from your life. The second is to learn how to get women. Not only for knowing how to deal with this girl, but with that skill, it will also be easier to heal your wounds and get over her.

I teach both of these in a book I’ve written. It’s an e-book called “All About Women: The Encyclopedia Of Seduction”. Apart from the above, I cover each step of the seduction process, from A to the Z. From understanding the way women think, to learning to be a Man who attracts girls with his presence, approaching women the right way, secrets of making your dates successful and effective, improving your sexual life and a lot, lot more… Whether you are ugly, bald, young, old or broke, the techniques I teach will work for you like charm!

About The Author

Giuseppe Notte has created “All About Women”, the *ultimate* guide on turning YOU, the average guy into a sex-magnet who gets the most beautiful girls – whether you are fat, ugly, bald, young or broke! http://www.Seduction-and-Dating.com

Dating Asian Girls ! Leave behind all the stereotypes. Read the story of Tim in his own words.

I was inspired to share my perspective on relationships with an Asian girls after reading about intense desire of Western men to marry Asian girls, or more specifically a Japanese girl.

When a person searches for true love, they must not have any assumptions. If you desire the pure love of an Asian girl, then you must also throw away all stereotypes that you may have about Asian girls – that they are submissive, docile, naive, too eager to please, and whatever else.

Since love is never expressed in a cookie-cut design, remember that your true love, the Asian girl of your dreams, who will rescue you from this abominable and inescapable trap of single white females, will perhaps be un-accepting of your previous judgments and stereotypes you have come to know and believe.

Just so I am perfectly clear, I have dated American women, and they are wonderful human beings for whom I have no ill feelings whatsoever.

That previous statement about the trap of single white females was merely an exaggeration of the impression I received from your comments on American females.

As I was taught, assumptions and stereotypes can destroy a relationship and sometimes prevent them before they even begin. I learned it was not fair for me to say that every Asian girl I date will be exactly as the first love in my life, who was indeed Asian.

Perhaps I am speaking of things you have already come to understand, and I have no intentions of insulting your intelligence, or that any American females either.

True love comes with complete honesty and open heart. And the only word of advice which I still have failed to completely grasp is that any woman – Asian, American, Latvian, etc., hates to hear about your past relationships.

Women in general never like it when you bring up an ex. In rare cases, a few may accept it as an opening up. Yeah, I know what I just said may sound like a generalization, but wouldn’t you also dislike hearing about a girl’s ex-boyfriend(s)? Maybe not, but…that goes without saying…don’t generalize either.

In no way am I the perfect male. I do my best to reveal who I am and being honest with the one I love, and at the same time, be honest with myself. You are well on the path of finding and understanding true love.

I commend you greatly for writing your experiences as you have. It relates to many, many, many men out there who do not have the courage to come out and have their own life written out on a website such as yourself.

I happen to be one of those men. I wish you the best of luck in find your true love. Never let anyone change your opinion or preferences and ideas on what you know will make your life complete. Always follow your heart as you have been.

I too am a fellow lover of Asian culture, cuisine, and most importantly, the miracle of God’s most precious creation – Asian Girls.

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About the author:

Dao Jones, the founder of Asian-Girls-Dating.com is connecting Asian girls to western men in a very unique and succesfull way. Since 2001 she is giving dating and writing tips, as well as lots of information about the special caharcteristics of Asian women.

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